Saturday, July 22, 2006


Maybe the question should be why do ASD people hate parents of autistic children? Or should I go the other way and just say why do kids hate their parents? My oldest being 11, I am only now learning recently of this 'kids hate their parents' syndrome. Being the parent of an autistic 3 year old (as well as four other children of various NT ranges of disfunctionality), I find the level of venom coming from various sources disturbing. Being a parent of an autistic child who chooses to try various biomedical approaches, I am feeling as if I have to explain EVERYTHING I do for my child. I assure you, nothing I am doing with my child is life threatening nor life altering (nor do I expect it to). All I am looking for is better responses to her various therapies.
I guess I WAS looking for a "cure" at one point, but my knowledge and expectations have shifted from that of finding the 'antibiotic' to finding the right type of therapies to reach her and have her be able to reach me. Why should vitamins and diet be met with such a backlash of anger though? No need to answer that, I know who the anger is mostly pointed at, I just wonder why it flows down to the parents.
Which brings me back to my title. Do you think my Liv is going to grow up to hate what I tried to do for her? I certainly hope she has the presence to formulate and to express it to me!

Sorry for a disappointing inaugural post. I just felt that if I post graffitti on all your blogs, that you have the opportunity to draw on my walls...Bill


abfh said...

Bill, I am an adult autistic blogger (not a "kid," by the way) who regularly reads pro-neurodiversity blogs, forums, etc., and I haven't come across anyone who hates his parents for giving him vitamins. The only "hatred" I have seen on the neurodiversity blogs is directed at quacks who sell harmful products.

Kevin Leitch discussed this issue in a recent post, Biomed Is A Spectrum (like many neurodiversity advocates, Kev is a parent of an autistic child).

I certainly do not hate my parents for giving me vitamins, encouraging me to eat salmon because fish oil is healthy, and so forth. To the contrary, if you read blogs by autistic adults, you'll find that many of us are as concerned about health and nutrition as anyone else. See this post by Zilari (who is an autistic adult) for a discussion of diet and supplements.

Mom26children said...

Hi Bill,
Diet and vitamins are not the issue when pro-ND's balk at Biomedical. It is as abfh states, it is the quacks selling "lies" to desperate parent's that upset me.
As the mother of a 16 year old autistic daughter, we have been sold many lies. We drew the line when proof could not be given with their "Cures".
I feel badly for the children who are subjected to various procedures that in the end will harm the child without changing the autism.
We have autism x 5 in our house. It is not even a thought in the morning or at bedtime. It does not permeate our home.
At the age of 3, Liv is new to will get better. She has good parent's..that will carry her a long way.
Great blog, by the way.